Wow – where to begin with the ex-wife...please keep in mind these are things she told her kids, her family, and all of their friends (of whom none speak to my husband any more).
Lie #1:
“He just all of a sudden abandoned me. I had no idea.”
I know that before their marriage ended, the ex-wife was well aware for months this was happening, and in fact participated in making it happen. He paid off all of her bills (including her gambling debts), helped her get a new job (she got fired from the old one for lying about time), and set her up with a place to live before he would even consider leaving. It was she who actually stole his credit card and packed up and left one night – so he left.
Lie #2:
“He left me because of her. She destroyed my marriage.”
I laugh at this because we have known each other for years. I used to babysit their kids. I was invited to his 40th birthday party – by her. Just because he chose to move to my city (out of three choices) doesn’t mean there was anything going on. I simply helped him get set up with an apartment.
Lie #3:
“Her son is really HIS son.”
Really, lady, check your timing. I lived @6000 miles away from you when my son was conceived – this was just cruel to your children – who believed you! And apparently so did everyone else because even my mother-in-law wanted to see pictures of my son’s father...
Those are just the big ones I remember and all the kids knew about the divorce because I wouldn’t let him say anything bad about her to them. In my previous post you see how well that went over, and they believed every word she said.
She also sued him after the divorce was final for money that was taken care of in the divorce (after she had remarried). She lied and said he took it all but it was plainly documented in the papers where the money had gone. That’s was a quick $1500 in legal fees out of our pocket. Then she hacked the credit card accounts, changing passwords and deleting ebills so we would be late with bills for which he was responsible. We tried to get an order of protection, but she hired a lawyer from 1000 miles away to fight it (???) which was another quick $1500 out of our pocket, and it got denied because she lives out of state. For two or three years we endured a barrage of never-ending emails and phone messages, again even after she was remarried.
What she doesn’t know is his phone is set to not ring when she calls now. We’ve saved all of the emails, and taped all of the phone messages, because we always wonder what’s going to come up next and want to be protected. After all this is a woman who, when they were married and my husband was in intensive care, walked in, took off her wedding rings, said I’m engaged to someone else, I never loved you, you keep the kids, and oh by the way – our oldest son is not really yours.” (Note – the oldest son is why they were married in the first place – he was the rich man in town’s son – she got pregnant on purpose).
I have not had the displeasure of seeing this person in years, thankfully. I wish it were possible for me never to, but it’s inevitable as there are “children” involved. When it does happen, she will get nothing but pure Southern kindness on my part and won’t even know what hit her.
